Power exchange is a major fucking kink within my family. Both boy Rogue and pup Champ enjoy a protocol-driven dynamic, and as their Alpha, I provide an environment in which they can thrive in extremely important.
And let’s be honest, it’s just fucking hot. Having a submissive respond to your commands produces an instant fucking boner for me, but like all healthy kinks, it is vitally important that we move forward in a safe and sane way.
Control is sexy, but so is consent
Power exchange isn’t all about just having a submissive do whatever the hell you want
(okay, maybe it is sometimes – but pay attention).
Instead, a big part of this particular kink is filling their need to be of service. For a power exchange to be done right, it requires a lot of negotiation, understanding, communication, and a great deal of fucking trust.
I am by no means an expert in this area, but having been and still consider myself a submissive for the past million fucking years, I know what I enjoyed within a power exchange dynamic and have tried to bring that into the relationships I have with Rogue and Champ.
High, Medium, Low – It’s how it works
In our family, we have 3 sets of protocols, which change depending on several factors. This is done to take the guesswork out of behaviors and expectations. Each protocol is divided into a set of directives based on different attributes such as physical appearance & health, communications and day-to-day activities.
Low Protocol is used when we are in the presence of muggle family, co-workers, or anyone we collectively feel wouldn’t understand the idea of a health power exchange. Both myself or the submissive may declare a Low Protocol state.
If a submissive requests Low Protocol, I cannot decline that request. This is a safety measure if a submissive needs relaxed directives or space to process.
Medium Protocol is our normal “go-to” and generally governs how I expect a submissive to behave. This Protocol level has the greatest number of directives since it encompasses so much of our dynamic.
High Protocols are the most strict and are used mainly at kink/family events and public appearances. I am the only one that can declare the use of high protocols, however like everything in this world, I expect the submissive to communicate clearly with me as to their physical and mental state. If my boy or pup isn’t in a good head space, I make it a point to provide them with the attention they need to feel secure in the moment, or if need be, it is also my responsibility to remove them from the environment.
Fuck that’s hot…
Yes, it is. My cock is rock hard just writing this article, and I know boy and pup would be right there with me if their dick’s weren’t caged. We all entered into this power exchange because we fucking enjoy it. Rogue, my boy, has told me many times that he craves and desires to be controlled, but here is where the trust comes into play.
You have to be able to FUCKING trust the one driving the collective bus and know they aren’t going to drive speeding into a brick wall.
At any time, the submissive in our exchange can call for an evaluation of a directive. We sit down and review it, determining if it is still effective within our dynamic. They also can suggest new directives because while am the Alpha I am not yet a mind reader. Having clear, open fucking dialogs about how these things make us all feel is vitally important to the Power Exchange dynamic being successful.
I have said this one, and I will say it again, kink isn’t always about fucking Dicks and Ass. You must have a strong foundation to play at our level. Our Power Exchange dynamic is not for beginners, but that doesn’t mean everyone needs to go do our extreme day one.
I’m new, but this sound fucking amazing…
You’d be right; it is. Having a healthy Power Exchange dynamic can be a way of freeing yourself as a submissive and learning more about the fucking incredible feeling of someone giving up control to you as a Dominant. Thus, if you want to establish a Power Exchange dynamic within your D/s relationship, I suggest taking it slowly, communicating with each other, and seeking out a set of rules/directives that you can both accept.
Remember, this should be fun, and if it isn’t at any point, fucking stop!
