Kink can be fluid as fuck, and positions within a dynamic continue to evolve. So often, we typecast folks based on their appearance. He looks like a Dom top, or they are totally a fucking sub when truthfully, you have no real idea how someone presents themselves.
Dynamic roles can be as diverse as gender identity, and the two do not go hand in hand. Maintaining an open mind and being willing to change is very fucking important to having a healthy relationship with Kink.
For instance, everyone sees me and automatically assumes I am a bratty, sub-bitch-faggot with an affinity towards the anal arts, and they generally aren’t wrong. For years, I have branded and presented myself in that light.
But I also have a very developed, strong, dominant side.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m never not going to prefer being used and abused by a 6-foot-something mouthy fucker of a man who can, with a single look put me on my knees, ready to receive whatever they feel like depositing into my awaiting holes.
Yet I do really enjoy exploring the Dom in me as well. And let’s face it, subs make the best Doms for any number of reasons, one of which is we know what “we” like and what it feels like to get the “tingles”. (Boy, Girl, They, It, Slave….when you get the praise, you get the tingles.)
Recently I have found myself on the switch side of the dynamic equation, and taking up the Dominant role. In this new evolving interaction, I also find myself leaning more into the gender-neutral/fem side of my identity (they), even going as far as having a “mistress” mindset.
My new sub prefers me to be more fem and even nurturing, which is such a turn-on for me. They also enjoy the fact that I’m a collared submissive who is in regular chastity. My submissive nature is also in the foreground of our dynamic, so much so that I have begun asking members of our kink family to refer to me as “Alpha” and everyone else can call me “boy” forgoing my given name.
My given name is far from dead however, it’s just taken a lesser priority within my personal zeitgeist.
This new dynamic is also bleeding into my home life since this new sub lives within my household and is, in fact, my Daddy.
UNO’s not the only game with “Reversal” Cards!
You fucking heard me. Daddy is now taking a more submissive role within our relationship and is now (at least for the moment) my beta boy rogue.
Don’t get me wrong, Daddy and I are still very much in a D/s relationship, but for the moment, at least, I’m the “D,” and they are the “s.”
This is a fairly new development and a lot is still being worked out. But for a long time I have suspected boy had a sub itch they were dying to get scratched. They have always identified as a switch which is why when we started dating I didn’t refer to them as “Sir/Master”. For me the honorific of “Daddy” allows for wiggle room within the traditional dynamic roles, however I still took the position of designated catcher.
My boy and I are still working out the protocols of our new dynamic, and what that’s is going to mean within our household. Is this the new “norm” or is this just a phase. For now I am looking forward to exploring this and understanding where we end up.
What I can tell you is that this Alpha loves his beta boy, and if he needs something different to feel fulfilled and happy, it is my responsibility as my primary relationship to fulfill that feeling or help him find a way to.
We all know that I am a lot to handle, and the boy has done an amazing job ensuring I have what I need in life, so while this dynamic change is new, it’s far from a burden. I welcome it and can’t wait to see where this dumpster fire ends up.
So without further…blah…blah…let me introduce to you
